A man has been left devastated after he used a DNA test to see if his son was really his - and it's led to his wife demanding a divorce and his kids refusing to speak to him
A man accidentally destroyed his marriage after insisting on a DNA test for his middle child who 'doesn't resemble him'. The 37-year-old, who has been married for 12 years and shares three children with his wife, is suspected of infidelity due to the second child's lack of family resemblance.
Determined to uncover the truth, he purchased a paternity kit and tested his son, telling his wife "she shouldn't have a problem with it if she has nothing to hide". Sharing his story on Reddit, he confessed: "I always had this nagging feeling that our middle child wasn't mine. Our oldest and youngest look just like me, but my middle child doesn't."
"My wife has shown me a photo of her grandfather, and he does bear a strong resemblance to him, but he just doesn't share any of my family features. He looks so different from anyone else in the family. I decided I wanted a paternity test to put my mind at ease. My wife became quite upset when I mentioned it because infidelity is a deal-breaker for her, but I saw that as all the more reason to get one done.", reports the Mirror.
When the results arrived, they confirmed that he was indeed the biological father of the child. "I thought everything was fine, and I had my peace of mind," he continued. "Except she told me she was going to take the kids and stay with her parents for a while. When I asked why, she blew up. [She] informed me that she was seriously contemplating divorcing me over this stunt."
"She was furious with me for doubting her loyalty. [She said I know] how she felt about cheating and that she would never forgive me for what I put our son through, making him question his place in the family." He attempted to justify his doubts, but she completely shut him down and chose to ignore him.
He explained: "I just wanted to be sure, and that surely she could see why I'd question it when he looks nothing like me. She told me she would never forgive me for this, and that I hoped my foolish pride was worth the cost of my family." After taking some time apart to reflect, his wife finally initiated a conversation about where they stood.
"We talked and basically it boiled down to her wanting a divorce because I don't trust her and think so poorly of her character that I thought she'd pass another man's child off as mine," he continued. "She then said she'll never forgive me for treating my son so abhorrently that he asked why I hated him. I didn't realise I treated him so differently, but apparently, it was obvious."
"I tried to defend myself but she asked what I meant then. [She said] no matter how I tried to dress it up, I accused her of cheating and treating our son like trash because he wasn't my spitting image. She then brought up she wondered if I was projecting because only one of us ever had infidelity in their background and it wasn't her."
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The man confessed: "That stung, because while yes, I had cheated in two past relationships, I've never cheated on her. I said that but she said she'd never cheated at all, but that didn't stop me from accusing her of it did it? So now my kids won't talk to me and my wife wants to divorce me - all over a paternity test."
Unable to handle the situation, he turned to Reddit for advice on how to move forward. One Reddit user was straightforward in their response: "This guy keeps saying 'my wife is divorcing me over a paternity test' but she isn't. She's divorcing him over treating one of his children abhorrently and distrusting her and generally being a crappy partner. Honestly, this guy sounds like he sucks. Good for her."
Another Reddit user responded by saying: "The more he writes the more I think that his wife leaving him and his son hating him is about more than just a DNA test." A third user declared: "All over a paternity test... All over husband being a total d***head, more like."
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